“Always tell someone how you feel, because opportunities are lost in a blink of an eye but regrets can last for a long time…”
As much as this quote means to its every single letter, it still can’t be followed to its words…
We have a range of emotions that we can’t even explain each day.
Day starts good or bad but mood never stays the same. There’s always something that immediately makes one smile and immediately puts one in deep thinking mode.
I am no expert on how this works but I am sure I am not the only one to go through this roller coaster each day.
But what I would specifically share about today is feelings.
We might feel a lot of things for a lot of people but what should really be expressed and what not. Also, how weird it is, when it’s taken completely with a different perspective.
Over the time, I feel that feelings need not be expressed all the time. Although I did have a very different perspective about this. I had always believed that expressing what you feel makes you feel better and strengthens you. It might help in strengthening a relation or it might just break it but at least you are being true to yourself.
But somehow, over the time, I don’t think that’s a really smart approach.
I’m not saying lie about what you feel but well, let’s just say, you can always leave some parts out for own brain to process. Not everything you tell is NEEDED to be heard by the other person.
Relationships (of all kinds) now have become so brittle (or maybe was always like this, I’m not sure). Each word you express, as a part of your feelings can really make or break things.
Example while talking to my mother, if I just say something as simple as “I think so and so…” for a sensitive topic, it’s is most likely that I will hear things like “Yes, you have grown up too much to know about everything.“. Instead if I just politely try to say the parts she wants to hear, not lie, that could save a bad morning for both of us. I learnt this the hard way.
This happens on day-to-day basis in friendships too. As much as you would like to believe that you gotta be honest about your feelings, hold your horses. Why? Because well no one wants to hear something that might not really be in same frequency as them. And again, most likely you will just called something you wouldn’t want to hear about yourself.
As much as I think this works in today’s life, I also feel really sad about this fact.
I’ve always been a person who was straightforward and thought honesty always goes a long way. Doesn’t seem like that anymore.
It might be confusing what to do sometimes. It is for me each day. So I’ve started a little practice for myself. Which I should have started long ago.
Each time I really feel something, with respect to me or anyone else in my life, I take some time to think it over. After sometime (few hours), somethings go away because they weren’t as important. And some other things stay but take a more polished shape in my head. That makes it easier for me to express myself.
Maybe these thoughts are old school. Everyone obviously knows about it because each one goes through it. But I’m sure there are some people like me out there still trying to figure it out on day-to-day basis, what’s right and what’s not.
Do you feel this way too sometimes?
Keep smiling and stay strong 🙂
P.S. All those who haven’t watched the movie ‘Inside Out’, do watch it when you find the time. I personally love it because it covers various feelings we go through each day! It’s a children movie, but says quite a bit 🙂
P.P.S. Share your thoughts in comments below or simply write to me directly 🙂